Our internal dialogue, with our thoughts, judgments, and feelings constantly plays through our minds. The lines we feed ourselves emerge from the chapters of our life stories. Some of the pages in our stories are worn and dog-eared. We know these stories so well we can recite many of our lines from memory.
So where do these lines come from? These lines that we have to come to believe as our truth and the guideposts for shaping our experiences and the reality we are living. Our stories begin from the day we are born. The gathering and creation of many of our current assumptions and beliefs are rooted in our childhood. As a child we would not have questioned or examined what we learned to believe as true.
We then continue to carry and weave many of these beliefs throughout our lives. Many of the lines we perpetually feed ourselves have never actually been re-examined and explored to see if they are actually reflect who we are or who we want to be today.
Each one of us has the personal power to change our thoughts and the lines we feed ourselves. That is great news as some our thoughts and beliefs can be very negative and downright destructive to our well being. You know the ones. Those pesky pop ups of “Who do you think you are?”, “Your not good enough.”, “Your only going to make yourself look foolish.” and the list goes on.
So in knowing that we hold the power in our hands why is it that we continue to feed ourselves those old familiar lines that do not serve us well. Understanding the role our brain chemistry plays on our feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and behavior is important. When we seek to adopt new beliefs and behavior we feel out of balance and our brain will seek to find the baseline. There are physiological feedback loops that act and make the same old familiar way of thinking and doing things preferable even when you want to change.
Stepping back and observing your thoughts can help you gain some perspective and distance you need to consciously select your thoughts for the experiences you want to create. Meditation is a great practice that allows you to acknowledge your thoughts and then gently detach and release them without judgment.
It is important to remember is that it takes at least three to six weeks of consistent action in order to see a noticeable change in your behavior or way of thinking. Your brain will even seek to continue to return to the old familiar baseline for three to six months later.
So remember you do have the personal power to create the experiences and life you want. Patience, consistency, and compassion for yourself when you do slip back into your old patterns of thinking are essential.
So whose line is it? It is yours. Yours to own through the thoughts you think and the words you speak.